I cannot count how many times I’ve heard sermons or teachings on the life of Mary and Martha. It was often a favorite at women’s retreats. The admonishment was how we might lay aside our busyness and learn to sit at Jesus’ feet. Mary, it was stated, had found the “better” way. I used to think that was about learning how to be a better listener and “rester”. I see it differently now.
I look at my life that was and now is and I see the 2 places I’ve lived. Martha, in my life, represents striving to get it all right for Jesus. Mary, represents knowing my place with Him.
Let me explain.
The life I knew was one that was filled with lists and admonishments to become something I wasn’t. The truth is, it was really earning my own righteousness. It wasn’t presented with those words, it just is what it was. There were words spoken reminding me of what to strive for; “he must increase and I must decrease”, “study to show yourself approved unto God”, “work out your salvation with fear and trembling”. I was encouraged to do what I could and leave the rest to God. So I did.
Most of my life I heard teachings that focused entirely on the things I was supposed to do in order to be worthy of this life that Jesus offered to me. I studied hard. I gained much knowledge. I strove to try and figure out how I might decrease so that somehow, some way Jesus would increase. It was exhausting.
I learned early on that Jesus had come to this earth to save me from sin. The emphasis was on how bad of a sinner I was. I made Jesus die because of my sin. At least that’s how I interpreted it. But here’s the thing I didn’t get. Jesus didn’t come to save me from my sin. He came to restore my identity. Sin got in the way of that, so he paid the toll with His life in order that He might get things back to where they were intended to be.
When Adam and Eve were created they were made in the image of God who is love. There was perfect love in them. They were told if they ate the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, they would surely die. They ate. They got separated from that perfect love and suddenly they became in need of love instead of being love. They lost their identity. It’s what this whole thing is about.
I was made to be love but sin got in the way of that. It changed the way I saw myself and how I saw others. Jesus came and died to the power of sin, taking mine with Him, raising me to a new life with His perfect love once again indwelling me. When focused on behavior and sin, I couldn’t see love. All I could see was the “to do” list of failures and activities that must be conquered.
I lived like Martha. I was busy with “all the things” in hopes that I would live this life well. It was the wrong focus. It kept me from what was right in front of me, love. Mary chose what was better. She saw where love was. She stayed there.
The whole focus on what life with God is really supposed to be is love. God IS love. Mary, to me is a picture of living as one who knew she didn’t have to do a thing to be loved. She just was. Martha, on the other hand, depicts the life I once lived, where behavior and performance were critical. Jesus said to her, “Martha, you are worried and upset about many things but few things are needed, indeed only one.” “Mary has chosen what is better and it won’t be taken from her.” Mary knew.
I’ve said it before, an apple tree doesn’t look around the orchard and stress and strive to make apples. It sits in the sunshine and soaks up the rain and apples pop out on its branches because that is what it was made to be, an apple producing tree. So it is with me.
I was made to be love. It was the original design. When sin entered this world I was born into it, we all were. It changed the dynamics of everything. So Jesus came. He took it all upon Himself because it kept me from my real, authentic identity.
It’s about becoming what I was made to be, love.
Dione Warwick sang it best. “What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”
I am love, you are love, we are love. It was the original design of mankind. What would this world would be if we allowed that to be our identity. It’s what Jesus came for. To restore me back to what was intended all along, to embody love.
What matters more than anything Galatians says is faith expressing itself through love. It’s what this world needs, love, sweet love.
©coopyrighted: Julie H Todd 2019